Stop killing our Prophects
WHY
MANY PASTORS DIE YOUNG?
THE
AUTOPSY OF A PASTOR.
In
the past few days, a couple of pastors I know have gone to glory in their
prime. While many may say many things from the spiritual angle only, I resist
the temptation of being naive and gullible.
~
One died going to drop his members after Sunday service. He probably died due
to over-exhaustion of his health.
~
Post activities exhaustion led to fatigue and accident that took the life of
one of the most handsome young vibrant zealous man of God I know in Ghana.
~
A Nigerian female Pastor slumped and died in the United States and her host
couldn't even try to connect the family because they can't afford the $,5000
morgue fee. They allowed the govt to set her for mass burial if not for a
friend in USA that alerted pastors in Nigeria two days before and effort was
made to trace her family in Lagos by a friend - after many inquiries.
CAUSE:
Pressure and failed hope.
~
Another died in his sleep after Friday tarry night. If he had taken adequate
care of his health, maybe he will still be alive by now.
The
story never ends.
~
Another died because none was available to help, even the members he burnt his
life for and the so called ministers and spiritual sons and daughters were no
where to be found in his hours of needs.
~
Most of these people are Bishops with good standing, viable ministries and
graduates from good universities.
A
pastor conducted mild medical examinations for some Pastors after one of his
meetings few years ago, about 200 pastors participated.
He
insisted that no minister above 40yrs of age will leave without being evaluated
by the medical team, except those in their twenties and early thirties.
The
result was mind bugling,
~
over 30% had a elevated BP within 180 systolic 90 diastolic.
~
15 had extreme high BP above 200/120.
~
28% had diabetics,
~
16% had elevated PSA,
•
Blood cultures done, showed that over 60% had different levels of bacteremia.
•
Psychological analysis revealed that over 7O% had emotional problems they could
not share with anyone.
•
Urine analysis and smear tests were not friendly either.
•
Eye examinations shows levels of deficiency and stress induced factors.
**Most
of these pastors never know they had these problems... That is the sad part of
the news.
>They
were the walking corpses physically even though spiritually alive
>They
are dead emotionally.
>Their
vision and passion is dead.
>Their
spiritual life has little life at all.
>They
are burnt out.
>Many
have died vocationally.
>Others
are waiting for burial.
Autopsies
is not a pleasant topic, I get that, but I would be negligent if I did not
share with you about the numbers of pastors who are dead in the ministry.
You
need to know.
You
need to grasp this reality.
You
need to pray for them.
You
need to walk alongside with them.
HOW
DID THESE PASTORS DIE?
My
figurative autopsies uncovered eight common patterns.
Some
pastors manifest four or five of them. Many manifest all of them.
1.
They said “YES” to too many members.
In
order to avoid conflict and criticism, these pastors tried to please most
church members. Their path was not sustainable. Their path was unhealthy,
leading to death.
2.
They said “NO” to their families.
For
many of these pastors, their families became an afterthought or no thought at
all. Many of their children are now grown and resent the church. They have
pledged never to return. Their spouses felt betrayed, as if they were no longer
loved, desired, or wanted. Some of these pastors have lost their families to
divorce and separation.
3.
They got too busy to remain in the Word and in prayer.
Simply
stated, they got too busy for God. Read Acts 6:4 again in the context of all of
Acts 6:1-7. The early Church leaders saw this danger, and they took a
courageous path to avoid the trap.
4.
They died a slow death from the steady drip of criticisms.
Pastors
are human. Yeah, I know; that’s an obvious statement. We sometimes expect them
to take the ongoing criticisms from members as if they were rocks. But a steady
drip can destroy even the most solid rocks.
5.
They were attacked by the cartel.
Not
all churches have cartels, but many do. A church cartel is an alliance of
bullies, bully-followers, carnal Christians, and even non-Christians in the
Church. Their goal is power. Their obstacle is the pastor. Many pastors have
died because cartels killed them.
6.
They lost their vision and their passion.
This
cause of death is both a symptom and a cause. Like high blood pressure is a
symptom of other problems, it can also lead to death. Pastors without vision
and passion are dying pastors.
7.
They sought to please others before God.
People-pleasing
pastors can fast and easily become dying pastors. The problem is that you can
never please all the members all the time. If Pastors try, they die.
8.
They had no defenders in the church.
Imagine
a dying person with no medicare (medical intervention). That person will die.
Imagine Pastors without members who will stand by them. Imagine Pastors where
members are too cowardly to stand up to cartels. If you can imagine that, then
you can imagine a dying Pastor. By the way, this form of death is often the
most painful. The Pastor is dying without anyone to help or intervene.
9
They died as a result of pressure to be like others.
Travel
around the world, have a big cathedral, be announced by God, be popular and
live in affluence, competing with one another or others they have no idea about
their stories. They allowed wide mouthed intimidators make them feel they are
failures without telling them the true stories behind their presumed success.
They burnt-out and it took a toll and caused their death. They lost the simple
rule of ministry that God gives to everyman that - size and miracles are not
indicators of good success before the Master. The letters to the Churches in
Revelation showed it clearly.
10
They died because they gave room to ignorance, ego, and unwillingness to take
advantage of opportunities God provided to help and enlighten their life.
They
succeeded in Church but failed their health and spiritual health because they
over-evaluated their status.
11.
Some are killed by their fellow Pastors, who added nothing to them but
negativism.
Increased
their conflicts and inflicted more injury to their wound. Don't invite a guest
from afar if you have no plans for them. You break their hope and add more
frustrations to the existing ones.
You
have associates, you live big while they scratch to survive with their
families. What you added killed them. Because they felt used, neglected and
abandoned.
~
Autopsies are not fun. Talking about dying is not fun. But if you are a Church
member, or a Senior rich selfish ego exhibiting, exaggerating Pastor, you can
be a part of the reasons why Pastors are dying because of your unwillingness to
be sensitive and to do the right things.
Pastors
have a tough job. They get more kicks than kisses. If a pastor is young, he
lacks experience; if he’s grey–haired, he’s too old. If he has five kids, he
has too many; if he has none, he’s setting a bad example. If his wife sings in
the choir, she’s being forward; if not, she’s not dedicated enough. If he
preaches from notes, he’s dry; if his words are impromptu, he’s too shallow. If
he spends too much time in his study, he’s neglecting his people; if he makes
home visits, he’s not a good time manager.
If
he’s attentive to the poor, he’s after public approval; if he attends to the
wealthy, he’s ingratiating. If he suggests improvements, he’s a dictator; if he
doesn’t, he has no vision. If he uses too many illustrations, he neglects the
Bible; if he doesn’t use enough stories, he’s unclear. If he speaks against
wrong, he’s legalistic; if he doesn’t, he’s a compromiser.
If
he preaches for an hour, he’s windy; less than that, he has nothing to say. If
he preaches the truth, he’s offensive; if he doesn’t, he’s wishy–washy. If he
fails to please everybody, he’s hurting the church; if he tries to please
everybody, he has no convictions.
If
he preaches tithing, he’s a money–grabber; if not, he’s failing to develop his
people. If he receives a large salary, he’s mercenary; if he doesn’t, it proves
he’s not worth much. If he preaches on a regular basis, people get tired of
hearing the same person; if he invites guest preachers, he’s shirking his
responsibility.
Wow!
And
you thought your pastor had an easy life!
How’d
you like to change places?
Bottom
line: Love your pastor, care for them.
No comments